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Some couples decide at some point in their marriage that while they don't want to break up the union, they want to experience being with other partners and they want it without the lies and guilt that come with a clandestine affair. When this happens, the couples often opt for an open marriage and some try to establish the parameters of such an arrangement by agreeing on an open marriage contract.
You're probably wondering what kind of satisfaction two very much married people would get from hooking up with others in the open. It does seem weird in a way, but it's a concept that many are welcoming with open arms. Some even say the intimacy is there, but it's not that type of intimacy between married couples. The intimacy could involve the use of toys, and you can read about it here. Stuff like a vibrator, men's sex toys - things that could get you off minus the physical intimacy that exists between two people who made a vow before God.
A Social Contract
The agreement couples arrive at when they decide to have an open marriage is not a contract in the legal sense of the word. For one thing, sex outside of marriage is considered illegal in many places, that is, if consent is given for physical contact. Thus, legally no contract can allow people to do it. The contract couples enter into is more of a social contract even if they take the bother of writing down points of agreement. Hence, this contract isn't the same as filing a marriage license application.
Some skeptics will say that having a contract in open marriage is an irony because the relationship in itself breaks the contract that people make when they first marry. Still, couples in an open marriage often need to make clear to themselves that they are on the same page about opening the relationship and there are certain things that cannot be permitted even under their new arrangement.
Honesty
Most couples find it necessary to define honesty as a basic ingredient in their open relationship. This may not include sharing details about sexual activities but typically, couples want to know who the other is having sex with and when.
No Unprotected Sex
As a rule couples agree on safe sex as a must in open marriages in order to avoid health problems and unwanted pregnancies. If you can't abstain, perhaps using a personal massager would be the next best thing.
Respect
Some actions construed as disrespect would be: flaunting sexual partners, comparing the spouse unfavorably with an outside partner, making hurtful comments or putting the spouse in an embarrassing situation.
Priorities
In an open marriage contract, couples usually promise to set aside time for each other and for their families. Often, the couple will agree that this time has priority over any outside dates; this affirms that their union and their family is their most important consideration.
The list goes on, but the bottom line is, the open marriage thing should never have one side looking for wedding destinations any time soon.
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