My name is Michele. I am physically disabled, and a mother. I live alone and recently lost my electricity. My 13 year old daughter is living with my mother nearly 2 hours away from me. I left my mother’s home to try to stand on my own feet, but my mother wanted me to continue to share a bedroom with my daughter while surrendering my entire SSI ($841/mo) and Food Stamps ($215/mo) to her while she also claimed me as a dependent (claiming that she provided 50% of my support for at least 6 months per year. I wasn’t even allowed to have a social life, but was like a prisoner in her home while ensuring emotional and psychological abuse because I I said I couldn’t perform many of the chores she grasped upon my shoulders. And when I left to stand on my feet, she stepped me off my way to go, even though she knows that I cannot walk. I need a wheelchair for things like grocery shopping, and have to have a stool in my kitchen so that I can be seated while preparing food.
My mother knew that I would be stranded in my home, and dropped me off without my way to go. Being stranded in my home has prevented me from being able to find work, because I cannot get to interviews. I have many marketable skills and plenty of experience in a multitude of fields. And I have 2 years under my belt of a 4 year degree.
Buy my mother former want me to stand on my own. She wants me in her house where she can dictate my every move, and force me to surrender all of my money to her, because she’s insists that I don’t know what I’m doing and only she knows how my money needs to be spent…which is on things that she wants for herself. In the last two years I lived with her, she purchased 3 tank tops for me to wear, and nothing else. My entire wardrobe is filled only with discarded clothing that my sister would occasionally send, or that my 13 year old has grown out of. And my dietary restrictions because of my elevated cholesterol, severe lactose intolerance, and GERD were ignored. I wasn’t allowed to purchase my own food and prepare it, but was required to surrender the Food Stamps I got to her so that she could spend them how she saw fit, and I was required to eat what she prepared even if it was something I was told not to eat because of my health and digestive issues.
I have no contact with my father because he was physically abusive all of my life. I was maybe 40 the last time I saw my father, and I severed contact with him because he physically assaulted me, slamming my head into the wall, because I was asleep and he had made dinner. Instead of sleeping at a reasonable hour, I was beaten for falling asleep.
I already escaped an abusive marriage that I was forced into at age 16. I was told to marry him out to get the f@$k out. I was just 16. And my parents offered me no help when he assaulted me repeatedly. He broke my nose, choked me to the point of losing consciousness, put guns to my head, and knives to my throat. And 9 months after I was forced into that marriage, he shot me with a . 303 at point-blank range. I died 3 times in 12 hours, received 68 points of blood in the same amount of time because it hit the artery in my leg. The gunshot left me of my ability to walk.
After I was finally divorced, both of my parents tried to force me into the roles they wanted me in. My father insisted on a career field that he wanted, and insisted that I would be forever with him and forever confined to a wheelchair…which was unacceptable to me. And my mother was in denial of my chronic pain.
Now I find myself stranded, unable to seek employment, unable to care for myself, because my mother refused me the car I had been driving. She knew I had no way to go, and let me here without being able to get to the grocery. When I protested and begged for the use of the car, she told me to tell my friend and landlord to get me one, and recently I begged her to allow me to use it for a 12 week contract job, she told me to go live with my friend/landlord, because she sold the car that my now 30 yr old daughter shipped to her for me to use to my mentally handicapped step sister who cannot drive and has demonstrated that she’s incapable of driving, and whose doctors have said she isn’t mentally capable of driving.
So she sold my step sister a way to seriously injure herself, while leaving me - physically unable to walk - without a way to even go to the doctor or grocery store.
I should add that while my mother was taking nearly $1000 from me (my entire SSI + Food Stamps), she was also making my mentally handicapped step sister pay $2000/month, plus was spending mmh step sister’s savings. She and my step father both were forced into early retirement, and my mother receives SSDI and SSI for herself, with my step father on full retirement benefits. Yet, she required me to surrender everything to her, and my mentally handicapped step sister to surrender $2000/mo.
My oldest daughter refuses to communicate with my mother because of the ‘em emotional and psychological abuse she endured at her hands, and I refuse to allow my mother to manipulate and control me, while emotionally and psychologically abusing me.
I desperately need help to get on my feet. The bare minimum I need is $7000. This would allow me to reconnect my electricity, catch up some on rent, procure a used vehicle, launder all of my clothing, get a bath someplace, and gas to find myself a job while returning to college to finish my degree in Computer Science.
Please help me help myself so that I can bring my 13 year daughter back home from my Abusive mother’s house. She is my reason for living, for waking up every day, and my mother is restricting her ability to even talk to me, while telling her lies about me…the same lies she told a lawyer and judge to get custody of her. She claimed that she didn’t know where I was, but she did. She claimed that she hadn’t heard from me, but my daughter said that she sad when I would call and my mother wouldn’t answer the phone. She told them I was abusing drugs, but I was a patient at a pain management clinic because of nerve damage, a shattered pelvis, fractured vertebra, and scoliosis in my lumbar region from the gunshot wound I suffered in 1992. She knew I was in pain management, but told the lawyer and judge that I was “taking pain pills.” She was intentionally vague, and claimed she didn’t know where I was so that I wasn’t able to be summoned to court to present PROOF that she was lying. And yet she was still claiming me as a dependent on her taxes, and wouldn’t even help me insure the car I was driving, not replace the flat tire.
All I ever wanted in life was to be able to be a functional human being, and my mother has gone out of her way to sabotage my every attempt. From taking her car keys while taking my car while I was in the shower, preventing me from being able to attend classes when I first attempted college.
I don’t want to be forced to return to my mother’s. I deserve a chance to stand on my own, and she will only sabotage my every attempt while emotionally and psychologically abusing me. It’s not my fault that she married my abusive father. It’s not my fault that she became pregnant with me and felt “stuck” with my abusive father. I’m done being punished for her mistakes.
I beg you, please help me.
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